You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

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How many times do we try to save those we love and care about from hardship? How often do we do everything in our power to protect them from the slightest little mishaps? How often do we see these actions as sabotage? Of course we should help those we love and protect them the best we can, but we should not take the struggle out of life for them. Struggle is good – it is what makes us strong. The old adage that “What doesn’t kill me only makes me stronger.” is true, at least when you are talking about your character.

The people I look up to most in life have lived through very hard things and came out on top. They struggled with finances, loss of loved ones, the loss of a home, health issues; and they never let those trials bring them down. They squared their shoulders and faced the problems head on. These are the people that other people look up to. They are the people have earned and deserve the respect of others. And they are the people who have the strength to survive in an ever more challenging world.

So, the next time you see an opportunity to help someone out, make sure you do it in a way that isn’t crippling them for life. Do not just give them a fish – teach them to fish. And when you are struggling with something and an easy way out presents itself, think twice about accepting it. The forms of help that will be best for you are those that allow you to still struggle, but make it possible to get through whatever you’re fighting without getting crushed. If it was your mistake that got you into the situation, take responsibility for your actions. Don’t allow yourself to depend on others to bail you out of all your problems. You will only be hurting yourself.

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