The willingness to forgive is a sign of spiritual and emotional maturity. It is one of the great virtues to which we all should aspire. Imagine a world filled with individuals willing both to apologize and to accept an apology. Is there any problem that could not be solved among people who possessed the humility and largeness of spirit and soul to do either — or both — when needed?
– Gordon B Hinckley
It has been said, by whom I don’t know, that pride is the root of all evil. I can believe that. Pride is simply putting yourself above others. Pride keeps us from realizing that those around us are struggling through this life just as we are. When we do something wrong, we wish to be forgiven by others, but if we are prideful we may not even apologize for our actions due to the embarrassment of admitting we were wrong. Likewise, pride doesn’t allow us to forgive others. They simply don’t deserve our forgiveness, because they made a mistake that we would not have! This is simply rubbish.
Everyone needs forgiveness. It is one of the great commandments that we forgive each other. Why is it that the person who refuses to forgive another is at greater fault than the original offending party? I believe it is for two reasons. First, we are denying the power of the Atonement when we refuse to forgive. We are saying that the power of the Atonement to cleanse a person isn’t good enough for us. That’s dangerous ground to be on. Second, I don’t believe that an unmerciful person is capable of receiving mercy. In order for the Atonement to work for us, we must be willing to give others the same break that we are receiving.